One of the characteristics of systems is that each part can interact with and affect other parts. This is certainly true of families. It’s not surprising that the introduction of a new member into a family system can have an enormous impact on everyone. Now, let’s see how relationships within the family may change. This activity provides a graphic example of how this happens.

Our example includes the Smith Family: Sharon - the mother Stewart - the father Robert - age 10 Susan - age 7
	Our example also includes Alan, age 9

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Directions:

1. Read the story slowly and think about how each element causes
   a relationship to shift.

2. Anywhere you see the magnifying glass graphic , please click on it to see a graphic illustration of the relationships.

Sharon and Stewart Smith have been married for 12 years.
They both enjoy children and family life, although Sharon thought that marriage would bring her much more emotional connection and sharing than it actually has. Stewart is also somewhat disappointed with marriage but he cannot put it into words.

Sharon feels that Robert is a rambunctious boy who doesn't always get the understanding he needs from his father who often seems to be angry with him. Susan has always been sweet tempered and never any trouble at all.

Stewart works long hours as a manager for a construction firm. He has worked hard to get where he is and feels that he had to make his own way in life. When he can, he helps to coach a Little League team because he thinks sports are great for boys and because he never got to play himself. He is proud that Sharon takes so much interest in the children. He thinks that Robert asks for and gets an undue amount of attention from his mother. After all, he's a boy; he should grow up and not need so much coddling! Stewart himself never knew his own father and never had much to say to his stepfather. He is sure that Robert is on the way to not amounting to much. He feels that Susan is quiet and helpful, a good little girl.

Answer the following:

1. How do they communicate with each other?

2. Who plays the role of disciplinarian?

3. How would you describe the family -
   as an open or a closed system?

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